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My 5 Favorite Mantras to Fight Self-Doubt – ivinci health

TBH – I’m writing this post after an hour of wrestling with self-doubt. As I sat on the couch thinking about this online magazine I’ve created, a stream of thoughts were running through my head:

Do I actually want to write about health/fitness/self love?

Do I have what it takes to make this magazine successful?

Am I ever going to have enough time to commit to writing and building this blog?

Did I make the wrong choice going after this?

Self-doubt is like a fog that rolls through on a daily basis for me. And if I’m being honest, it fucking sucks. I struggle with self-doubt in almost every area of my life, from work and relationships to fitness and family. Sometimes I cry (today), sometimes I crawl back into bed (today) and sometimes I use mantras (today!) to slowly take back my thoughts, my mind and my power.

More: 10 Super Easy Ways I Practice Self Love Every Day

What sucks even more is that it’s not just me—we all feel self-doubt, as we silently run scenarios and questions through our minds:

    Am I good enough?

    Did I do everything I can?

    Does my S.O. really love me?

    Am I pretty?

    Was I a shitty best friend?

    Did I work hard enough in that workout?

Self-doubt is pervasive in all of our lives and has a nasty habit of stealing our happiness. When we’re doubting ourselves, we’re not confident, strong and prepared for the next challenge. Instead, we’re drowning in problems that we created for ourselves—fighting that self-doubt tooth and nail. Or worse, letting it slow you down, spiraling inward.

    You are the warrior of your own life and you call the shots.

I often feel self-doubt with my work. Will I get this all done today? Why doesn’t that editor like my writing? This is why I’ve adopted a few simple mantras that help me beat back the self-doubt with work and otherwise:

    I am powerful.

    This is within my control.

    I own my piece of the world.

    I define my success.

    I am not [name of person here]; we live completely different lives; there is no comparison.

Do any of these feel authentic to you? Change them to be more specific and valuable to you and then pull one out when you feel self-doubt creeping in. (See Your Turn for more on creating your own.) Use them when you’re doubting your body, your mind, your looks—whenever you need to remind yourself that you are the warrior of your own life and you call the shots.

My Favorite Mantra: This is Within My Control

This is almost always my go-go because when I remember that I’m the one making decisions, everything feels more in control. It’s easy to let other people dictate our decisions and our feelings. Ultimately, how we feel and how we react to those feelings is 100 percent within OUR control.

Eleanor Roosevelt said it best, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

When you remember that your feelings are dictated by you, suddenly everything stops spinning; suddenly you feel lighter, more care-free and empowered.

My Second Favorite Mantra: I Own My Piece of the World

I have a habit of wanting to be as good as everyone else (let’s be real, we all feel that sometimes). When I see a personal trainer doing a hard exercise, I think, “Ugh, why can’t I do that?” or when I see a health blogger’s post going viral, I think, “Will I ever be able to be successful with my blog?” When I’m deep in this self-doubt, I remind myself: I own my piece of the world.

What I mean is, I have something to give this world—my own thing, not someone else’s—which helps me “make room” for everyone else. When I remember that we all have our own unique self to offer, we all have our own piece of the pie, the self-doubt begins to melt away.

Why? Because there’s a lot of stress that comes with wanting to be like someone else, or feeling the need to achieve something that you weren’t meant to achieve. It reminds me of this quote:

Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.

You do you, they do them and we all win.

More: That Time I Decided To Stop Playing the Comparison Game

Your Turn: Create Your Own Self-Doubt Mantras

Instead of just using my mantras, create five of your own. Sit down with a pen and paper and let your mind wander to a place where it’s comfortable, free and happy. What thoughts and feelings come to mind when you do that? Turn to your paper and write down these feelings and thoughts, slowly extracting short mantras that will help you return to that carefree place.

I Stopped Punishing Myself With Fitness and Started Celebrating My Body – ivinci health

When you think of exercise, what comes to mind? For me, exercise is something positive I can do for myself. It’s empowering; it helps me honor and celebrate my body and the things I’m physically capable of. As an added bonus, it clears my head and puts me in a fantastic mood. Working out, however, wasn’t always such a positive part of my life. For many years, exercise was an obsession and a punishment.

I was an athlete my whole life, so I was used to strenuous workouts and pushing my body. Unfortunately, my athletic career ended after a knee injury and an atypical recovery. Without the rigorous practice schedule and no parents to tell me what I could or couldn’t eat, I gained weight in college.

    For the longest time, I wanted to be skinny; I didn’t realize that skinny does not necessarily mean fit.

When I returned home for the summer, I went to see a holistic doctor in an attempt to lose the weight. The doctor put me on a restrictive vegan diet that consisted of 600 to 800 calories a day and two workouts a day. I dropped almost 40 pounds during the three months of summer, and when I returned to school in the fall, I felt like a new person; full of newfound confidence.

More: How I Learned to Love My Body

What I didn’t realize was that I had become completely obsessed with my weight and exercise and based my confidence and happiness on how skinny I was.

Living a “Thin” Life

Working out and maintaining my thin frame became my main focus in life. I dropped several classes in college that interfered with my second workout. If I felt like I ate too much food, I’d immediately weigh myself to see if I gained a pound. There was a time where I would weigh myself four times a day: when I woke up, after a meal, after a workout and before bed.

As time went on, it became harder and harder to maintain this low-calorie diet and rigorous exercise regimen. As I slowly began to gain weight, I found myself growing more and more depressed. I was ashamed of my body and became withdrawn and isolated.

My life became a vicious cycle of restricting my food, binging out of frustration and over-exercising to punish myself. I knew something was wrong with my behavior, but I didn’t know how to stop.

The Transition Time

I moved to Los Angeles after college and found out about a program to help individuals with eating disorders. I didn’t think I had an eating disorder because I wasn’t anorexic or bulimic, but I soon learned my behavior wasn’t uncommon or rare, and more importantly, I learned there was a solution to my problem.

I started meeting with like-minded people on a regular basis. One of the first lessons they taught me was I wasn’t allowed to “call in fat to life.” Prior to getting help, I would bail on friends and obligations if I felt fat or uncomfortable. This is “calling in fat.”

Next, in addition to creating a plan to stop my disordered eating (binging and restricting), I committed to only one workout a day and no weighing myself. I threw my scale in the dumpster when I was 25 years old and I haven’t weighed myself since.

    I didn’t think I had an eating disorder because I wasn’t anorexic or bulimic.

The Long (But Worthwhile) Journey Back to Health

It took several years, countless meetings and support from friends and fellows to repair my relationship with my body and my outlook on exercise. Now, I choose exercise programs that challenge me but make me feel good about myself. Weight training is my favorite because it helps to relieve stress and makes me feel confident. I also love HIIT workouts because they’re quick and effective.

More: HIIT Training: How to Build a HIIT Workout

I no longer wish to spend hours in the gym pounding on a treadmill because I hate my body. While I’ll commit to different exercise plans, I usually base my workout on what I feel like doing that day. I also make sure to take rest days, even if I don’t feel like it.

Resting is a way to celebrate my body, reward myself for your hard work and give myself time to recover.

The Mindset Change

For the longest time, I wanted to be skinny; I didn’t realize that skinny does not necessarily mean fit. Now my reasons for fitness have become much different. I now use exercise as a means to do more of the things I love.

    I enjoy hiking with a group of friends in San Diego, and I exercise so that I can keep up with them on the trails and enjoy the time with my friends.

    I’m a basketball official, so I work out to can keep up with the players on the court.

    I recently married the love of my life, so now I work out so I can stay healthy enough to keep up with our future children.

    I’d be lying if I said I don’t think about being skinny or losing weight anymore, that desire will probably always be there in some capacity. The difference is I no longer base my happiness on how much I weigh and I no longer spend all day thinking about food and exercise.

If I don’t feel like going to the gym one day or cut a workout short because “I’m not feeling it,” I let myself off the hook instead of berating myself. Exercise is something I look forward to, the “me time” I carve out of a busy day to celebrate my body and honor myself.

Sure, there are some days where I don’t look forward to a workout; sometimes I’ll do it anyway and I usually feel much better after. Other days, I’ll give myself permission to skip my workout and I won’t restrict my calories because I didn’t exercise.

It took a lot of hard work, self-discovery and support to develop a positive relationship with my body, food and exercise. I’m so grateful that I found the help I needed so I can enjoy life instead of hating myself and my body.

If you’re struggling, know that there are people out there with a similar experience and people who are willing to help. If you use exercise to punish your body, remember, it’s the only one you have. Take care of it so it will last and let you enjoy all the wonderful, more important things in life.

Your Turn

What is your relationship with your body and exercise? If you can relate to any part of my story, start by understanding that you’re not alone. It can be scary to be vulnerable and ask for help, but it’s the best thing you can do.

Even if you have a positive relationship with food and exercise, how can you shift your mindset to celebrate and honor your body? Commit to workout classes you enjoy, find a workout buddy, and plan gym dates so you can spend more time with people you love. Rather than feeling bad if you can’t do everything perfectly, congratulate yourself for making the effort and be grateful for the things your body allows you to do. Don’t exercise to punish your body, exercise to strengthen YOU, physically and mentally.


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